Stories from an easily distracted, dyslexic creative … The art of reinvention – Part 2 January 15, 2016
How to make your life awesome – now!
So, it’s the usual “2016 make good for the New Year” blast out happening everywhere you look.
I will exercise more …
… eat better …
… holiday more …
… blah blah blah.
But with all the doom and gloom on the news, it’s hard to focus and think for the future. It’s way easier using this as an excuse … to say to yourself “screw it … let’s just enjoy now.”
See, you are partly right. You should be enjoying the now and be ‘present’ … I have spoken about this before … but you should also be working on your plan to take over the world, with a great idea that ‘makes a difference.’
Because, without all the ups and downs … attempts and failures … there would be no progress – just doom and gloom really.
Historically, January is generally like this. Maybe it’s real … maybe it’s that we have more time to focus on the news … or maybe we just don’t wanna do anything, as we have been holidaying and we are still in our relaxing mode.
Let’s discuss the awesome Sir Richard Branson … or as he is also known … “Doctor Yes”. I have been following him for as long as I can remember. I see him as a truly great person … and as an amazing business/entrepreneur. I have been lucky enough to meet him. His more recent blogs have been focused on failures … maybe because of “Sidecar”, (a startup ride business that he invested in, based in San Francisco, that recently – and sadly – halted,) but also because he has had many – and always been open about – failures.
Richard’s life has been very public – and he has embraced that. His naysayers have no time to criticize, because he has already written about his failures as soon as they happen, and what he could have done better … before they even have a chance.
See, my feeling is – as I have said before in part one of this paper – writing is a form of therapy.
I spend a heap of time writing about some of the emotions of people I meet – with people expressing or feeling the opposite to me about how amazing life is – and can be. It’s hard work sometimes to stay focused and positive .. and can sometimes feel like a daily grind … until this happened …
See – the discovery I made was simple to understand … but hard to find.
Discovering the art of diplomacy to me is a lifelong project, working with all kinds of different people and making them … well … making them get along.
Lately, I’ve been seeing this aggressive approach to writing. I am seeing people define their progress with this, “fuck ‘em – do your own thing” approach. Personally, I think we need less anger and aggression – and more compassion and understanding. The world right now, definitely needs this.
The journey needs to be as fun as the outcome … and I can’t see how you would enjoy it with that “I don’t care what anybody thinks” attitude. It makes you either ignorant … or narcissistic. You will always have critics … but I never speak of the people that “arm chair direct”, because well … I don’t focus on that. I don’t need to say aggressive things to make my point … or diminish theirs.
Let’s start with more love and compassion … and I’m not saying that in a “kum-ba-yah” kinda way either.
Every successful (not measured by money) leader/entrepreneur I met last year was generous, kind, compassionate and thoughtful. They had little time for small talk … but they also never spoke negatively about others. More importantly, they also spent little time speaking about themselves. I found this quite amazing … it was like being Inspector Clouseau … trying to get information about their lives out of them. They were more interested in my life and asked more thoughtful questions.
See – you learn a bunch more by listening rather than talking. I love watching people, and I have always admired those who are super comfortable in their own skin. I’m writing this in a café, watching some people feeling awkward about sitting alone, staring at their phones … and some people just sitting, smiling and eating their croissant.
What makes these 2 people different?
What does one person know more than the other?
Why is the one person more content with their body language?
I love this science … because it’s not exact … and it’s hard to figure out.
So … here is what I know so far … at age 43.
Compassion, generosity, love and kindness yields way better rewards, and draws more people to you, with a more honest body language and a deeper connection.
People need to feel like they can say anything to you, without judgment, or disapproval – and feel that you are clearly present, and truly listening. Yep – no phones here please … and make good eye contact.
At this point you are wondering … “how did he get off track from the art of reinvention?”
I didn’t at all … this is the key to your awesome plan … plain and simple.
See, what this does is take full judgment away from your body language and make you more approachable. This will not only make you a better human, you will also feel better. It will open doors you never knew existed, and attract people with grand ideas, and present opportunities you never thought were possible.
However, it’s not like every person is an opportunity for a work contact.
Every person is a possible quantum leap into a place that may change the way you view the world – and the way you treat it.
When people feel comfortable to express themselves and speak honestly – without private persecution – they will open a Pandora’s box to possibilities … and possibilities are what makes this world livable, exciting and then guess what? Everything is possible.
So … take a breath … start the year by being compassionate … and you will never, ever regret it … or need to make it a yearly resolution. It will just become second nature.
Now … go do some good … the world needs it.
Robert Marchetti – Founder and CEO