Stories from an Easily Distracted Dyslexic Creative … The Art of Solo Dining November 11, 2015
The art of solo dining … a view from a different table.
Do you ever feel like going out for dinner … but no one is around to join you? Would you ever go out and enjoy a meal at a restaurant that you have always wanted to try … ON YOUR OWN????
Even though I am very lucky to know lots of people all over the world, and am rarely short of a friend to catch up with over a nice meal … I often feel the need to embark in one of my pleasures in life … Dining alone.
As I was writing this, I was in New York for Fashion Week and had been very busy catching up with friends, and sampling the best of this incredible city. I really just wanted to be on my own one night, so I rang a restaurant to make a booking for just myself … me … alone. I won’t name and shame (cough cough – Del Frisco’s!) … whoops! So I rang to make a booking and was told that they don’t take bookings for one. Single diners are just taken on a ‘first in … first served’ basis.
Well, I thought that was kinda f … wrong! And I even felt a little discriminated against!
Anyways – I tried my luck at being ‘first in …’ – and there was this restaurant … 70% empty! How many times do they turn away bookings for single diners … and miss out on their business?
The wait staff were entertaining themselves on their phones … which is not only boring for them, leading to unenthusiastic service, but a bad look for the venue.
So this got me thinking … while I was sitting there … dining alone … by choice … if the response to dining alone is like that for me … I can only imagine how awkward it must be for a female?
Do people assume you are lonely … desperate … wanting to be picked up?
Not every solo diner wants the waiter to come and chat, or provide a newspaper … to make you feel more ‘comfortable’ (or is it to make them more comfortable?)
Don’t confuse a solo diner with being ‘alone’. For me – that couldn’t be further from the truth.
Take a look around at the venue – appreciate the design, decoration, vibe. Notice the music. Taste the food – I mean … really taste the food.
So, next time you want to try that new restaurant up the road … take a shower, dress up, put on some lippy (this is for the ladies!) and take yourself out on a date … I’d love to hear how you went!
Robert Marchetti – Founder and CEO