Stories from an Easily Distracted, Dyslexic Creative – Find the Right Boss … Not the Right Job – Part 2! The Right Answers to Help. June 23, 2016
Ok – so you have finally worked it out … admit it … your boss is a knucklehead. They are making what was once, the industry you loved … horrible.
Data suggest that 70% of workers are disengaged from their jobs.
WHAT?! Yes … 70%!!
WHAT THE HELL DO YOU DO?
Let’s start with the Knucklehead “don’ts” …
They don’t own you.
They don’t own the industry you love so much.
They don’t understand people.
They don’t measure your success.
They are not (close enough to a don’t) happy within themselves.
They don’t have any self-control.
They are jerk offs. (This isn’t a don’t either … but it’s about right!)
So – where does that leave you? What the hell do you do? That’s a lot of don’ts.
Ok – when was the last time you wrote down what it is that you really want?
Ages ago / Never ???
Right – so go get a pen and paper / laptop / Mac / IPad / chalk / crayon … whatever.
I’ll wait …
Still waiting …
Now – imagine your ideal world. What does that look like?
Believe it or not, some people like having structure at work (???) and not everyone wants to be some kind of “entrepreneur-living-in-hotel-rooms-with-a-mac, -no-cash,-guidance-or-partner” type person. (Go figure??)
So, start searching online – LinkedIn, Facebook, Google etc. … who in your chosen industry, is regularly talked about?
Let’s say you work in a hotel …
Start searching for people that write about hotels, or start following various hotel CEO’s, GM’s or whoever you think seem to be constantly embracing their teams.
Actually – first things first … let’s start here before we do any of that.
“THE BIG SLEEP”
Are you getting enough sleep? If not – this is why you need to.
The greatest athletes, authors, entrepreneurs and global thinkers all need sleep, and will swear by how much it can change your behavior and performance. Read Arianna Huffington’s “The Sleep Revolution”. It’s about deprivation, blowout and burnout. But what it really shows, is a lesson in exhaustion.
Gary Vaynerchuk and Arianna posted a live video the other day, where she talked about not being on your Mac/ phone/PC/whatever screen, before you sleep. Arianna suggested we need to give ourselves, our eyes and our brain, time to wind down. Do this by reading, meditating, sewing … whatever you like to do to relax, so your brain isn’t too wired and busy, whilst trying to doze off. Gary mentioned that he turns of his media, then falls straight to sleep … like a log. He says he has no issues with sleep. Instead of being impressed, Arianna says that it’s probably because he’s exhausted. And Gary agrees … it’s true … and that’s not healthy either.
You see, sleep is important … like meditation … for one’s ability to find good rhythm and a sense of calm.
So let’s leave this for now and get to the boss you’re looking for.
Well … they are almost certainly the Number One reason you stop feeling these things …
Comfortable in your skin.
Passionate … shall I go on?
Thirty minutes in a job interview, is not long enough for you to tell your life story – or to figure out theirs … So you really need to do some ground work beforehand.
LinkedIn is a great way to start. Look at similar connections and reach out to them on a confidential level, and be truthful and honest. Ask what they think of your potential boss as a leader, and would they work for them?
Google the company … search for news and articles … and maybe you will be lucky enough to find some good and/or bad press on them. We all get bad press from time to time – when you’re a “full throttle business person”, you’re always bound to piss someone off … but remember, the press is not God … and not always accurate.
So, look for consistent themes. Is the company charitable – if that is important for you? Do they treat Family Time as precious … and make it loud and clear?
Look at Sir Richard Branson’s life, for example. It’s pretty hard not to love the guy, yet there is plenty of negative press on him. He has a 5-billion-dollar value from being involved in all kinds of stuff … so he’s bound to have some enemies or critics. Yet the overriding fact is … he is well liked!
Guilty by Association – who your buddies are, and who you hang with, is generally a pretty good measure of the person you are. Ask yourself first … would this potential boss hang with your kind of people, or people you aspire to be with? Once you figure this out … the rest is easy.
Find someone in the team that you want to join … and take them for a meal and get honest feedback, by being honest yourself.
What blows me away is, people generally won’t conduct any of this research before starting a job. In the scheme of things, it only takes a few hours … and could save you from being stuck for years in a contracted job you end up hating.
I’m still astonished when I sit in on an interview with a potential team member (who is asking for a 6-figure salary, mind you) … and ask them what they know about us, and our venues … and they say nothing! I mean really … would you hire that person?
Before the internet, we had to actually find shit out the old fashioned way … by using the phone book, and making enquiries face to face.
So the really short version of all this is … if you want to live an extraordinary life, (and that can only be by your own measure), start with who you surround yourself by … people that matter to you and your beliefs … whether personal or in business.
If you truly want to be satisfied, you need to keep growing with purpose. The right boss will help you grow. But you have to get off your own ass and take responsibility for your own decisions.
Step 1. Get some sleep.
Step 2. Get some paper and a pen.
Step 3. Read this again … then get off your ass.
I have for years, surrounded myself with great humans, that make me want to continuously be a better version of me.
I believe – as I have said before – If I’m the smartest person in the room … I am in the wrong room.
A great read below that will inspire you.
“The Covenant Secret: The Master Key to Success” – by John Feloni
Firm is not to be confused with aggressive.
Kindness is not confused with weakness.
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Robert Marchetti – Founder and CEO